Saturday, 3 October 2009

My Mum knew best

'The terrible things that happen to us in this life never make any sense when we're in the middle of them, floundering, no end in sight.  There is no rope to hang on to, it seems.  Mothers can soothe children during those times, through their reassurance.  No one worries about you like your mother, and when she is gone, the worlds seems unsafe, things that happen unwieldy.  You cannot turn to her anymore, and it changes your life forever.  There is no one on earth who knew you from the day you were born; who knew why you cried, or when you'd had enough food; who knew exactly what to say when you were hurting; and who encouraged you to grow a good heart.  When that layer goes, whatever is left of your childhood goes with her.  Memories are very different and cannot soothe you the same way her touch did.'
My lovely Mum died four years ago today. the quote above I read only this morning.  It's from a lovely book called,
'Big Stone Gap' by Adriana Trigiani


Pamela Terry and Edward said...

Thinking of you on this anniversary.

alice c said...

No one prepares you for grief or tells you that time does not heal - it just allows you to find a way to live with your loss.

Thank you for publishing those beautiful words.

Lynn said...

Hello dear friend! I'm so glad you're back, and I'm sorry I missed this anniversary post. What a beautiful photograph!!

(I've lost your email address, alas - can you send it? And no, darn it, I didn't buy that tantalizing book. And now I regret it!)


ruthie said...

As i read this it bought tears to my eyes, it says it all. thank you. *ruthie